The Male Mental Archetype: 3 Types.

As we are increasingly force to confront mental health issues in todays’ society, I find it helpful to discuss the common mental archetypes that today’s society has produced, and I dare to confront the status quo on its mental handling of these things.

This post aims to confront issues of mental health, mindset and relationships in regard to the three archetypes that I will set forth.

I will begin with a poem:

This world has you afraid,

confused about yourselves

and backwards!

Some of you like men (The Backward),

some of you like men but don’t show it

(Confused About Yourselves), and

the rest of you can’t trust women

with all of you (The Afraid).

Let me explain. The gay male archetype is repulsive to me, because when you observe something trying to be you, it makes you cringe. At least, it should. It should because it is an encroachment on something that you call yours, as someone is reaching into where they do not belong according to anatomical factions and suddenly claiming it as theirs. It is an obvious falsehood that you either choose to go along with or resist, and I am intrinsically against it.

Gaydom is deceptive, yet we expect people to tolerate it and treat it with regard. We speak on gaydom as though it is not a provocative art, as we are anxious to avoid any confrontation that would require us to choose sides.

We must not continue to do that.

I was in a homeless shelter once, and I was pissed off and angry the whole time, but not as angry as this one lady who lost her cool after sighting a penis in the female bathroom.

She was livid! She woke me up! All I could recall is how repulsed she was, yelling and screaming around the dorm, which was large enough to house roughly, two hundred women. She kept on saying that it did not belong and why was it even exposed, and she was, I think, frightfully upset because something happened to her that she was not expecting, in that bathroom.

I understood it, so I was calm, because I too had felt the presence as a threat to my womanhood. She eventually calmed down, and that was the end of that, but this woman’s peeve is not to be ignored, as no one fully considers the reality of “inclusivity” until after something bad happens.

At first, we had one. but then a second one came in, and I think that was when it began to be too much for us women who all just wanted to feel safe, comfortable, and at home.

To introduce a man into the mix, no matter how you much dress him up like a dog, you intrude on that.

As a woman, I too have felt threatened by more than one of those guys who say the are women, in the shelter system.

As I mentioned, I was pissed off of being there, so I was always silent, moody, and reserved. I initiated conversations with no one, except personnel. I wanted no friends, and I definitely needed nothing from anybody in there.

Those people were offended by that! Instead of leaving me alone, they went on the offensive. They would be loud and interruptive on purpose, try to initiate fights with me by being passive aggressive, and on once occasion, one was outright aggressive verbally, which caused me to write a letter to the supervisors.

Soon enough, I noticed that he was gone. They got rid of me too because I was sometimes late for curfew and a bit of a loose cannon — [side fact, never have I ever had fights in my life until I entered the NYC shelter district!] — and they placed me in smaller shelters, but I wound up with some of the same aggressors, which prompted me to run back home quickly to confront my mother who had gotten me into that mess.

But this whole story is not about me, it is about the male mental archetype, and I have just introduced you to ‘The Backward,’ who are men who like men, men who dress like women, and men who act like women.

These are men who err in their limits, and therefore, they are probably disagreeable people when you get up close and personal, because they have branded their egos to be so large, that it wants to encroach upon the female persona.

In my experience, male gays, are that way. Because they have an unhealthy female obsession (envy), they can be the one that always want to take your shine by trying to talk over you, make decisions for you, or manipulate you in some other way and sometimes, it takes years for people to notice this about them.

Interestingly enough, there is an underlying hate for the woman also, maybe because they know they will never be as grand as we are, and this causes them the mental blocks that prevent them from seeing women as sex figures, reinforcing their homosexual choices.

Next, we have ‘The Confused,’ who are men who love the company of other men, but they would not openly commit to gaydom, and they are commonly known as the “under-covers.” These are men who are confused about who they are and what they are doing, as they have a belief of certainty that they are one thing, while indeed they are doing yet another.

Indeed, these personalities are only after power, and they will do anything to maintain it, even if it involves acting in a confusing manner. I have seen men spend so much time with other men that you have to wonder about their sexuality, and though they try to hide it, their attraction to the male gender shines through.

This one person in particular that I know, he is as I described amongst men, but he is shy around women, overly-critical of them (again, this speaks to me of a deep envy), and I have even seen him repulsed by a woman’s overt sexuality, which is practically non-existent in men who are attracted to women.

Nonetheless, he still wants to maintain that he has interest in the female gender, which is confusing, if you judge him by his actions. Thus, he is in a state of confusion, which will play out in all the areas of his life, as such as person does not have stability. Indeed, the individual I’ve described life is in full disarray, while he tries to act nonchalant and unaffected by his efforts to try to maintain a lie.

To me, these people are in a state of shock, and they present with an inability to cope with reality. They may be dreamers and really civic minded individuals, or they can be described as “good people” by some, because of their dutifulness. However, their perceptions are skewed, and they are likely misdirecting others and seeking to dwell in a stagnated circle, as they anxious underneath it all, and they are always seeking to create an existence, because reality is one in which they have no substance because of their choices.

They can even be influential people, and have powerful positions because of their skills; however, within though, they hide their brokenness, and they are probably dealing with feelings of guilt, shame and regret, as they are caught in the decisions of their past that they have not yet resolved. These people are often in mental limbo, as I said, as they have unresolved conflicts, so their actions will flip back and forth as they try to live a “good life” while still defying life’s rules.

They are a combination of “good” and “evil,” with the “evil” trying to rule the “good” but to no avail. I say this because, the mere fact that these people are having a quandary is evidence that their denied existence is a troubling one, and for some reason (well, insanity), they continue to try to live in a way that the universe has explicitly stated that it rejects.

Lastly, we have the ones who are “The Afraid”, and these are a myriad, because there are levels of fear, and while the fear may not affect relationships at one level, it may be more increased for intimate relationships, and even vice versa.

These individuals are in heterosexual relationships, but the relationships may not be fulfilling because of these fear blocks. For instance, these men may have had lovers or they may have even married, but their inability to trust their lovers prevent them from reaching the pinnacle of themselves, and they usually falter because they do not have the seeing eyes of the universe, as they cannot properly create enough space between themselves and others to known their own thoughts and/or mental blocks, and to communicate them to others. They may also be numb to the receipt of messages from their partners, as fear has rendered them frozen in time and helpless.

These are some of the hardest men to deal with they are our “bad boys” and our “hustlers,” as they are the most proud, with the most to lose in terms of their egos, as they are faced with the proposition of trusting a woman wholly, which is most certainly a frightful ordeal for them, when they are faced with the realization that they are not as superior as they thought.

If the man chooses to accept that women and he are equals, then he becomes well-adjusted and he is not a part of this conversation. It is men who reject the truthful notion of equality when it comes up who get taken for a ride on fear, which is something that you would find any man hard pressed to admit.

However, this is the underlying driving force of heterosexual men who are fearful, and you can see it when their relationships stagnate, and never go past a certain point. While it may be different circumstances that affect each relationships, it would be the same construct rearing its ugly head in all of its forms, causing the relationship’s demise.

And again, because these men are carrying a wicked truth that they would like to hide, they are never even able to consider what I’ve just described, much less admit its existence within themselves.

If you are able to find a man who can admit his truth, then this must be after years of heartache and pain, and he could continue the denial no longer. Help is on the way for this person, as the mere fact of admitting your truth sends you satisfying amounts of grace, to cope with whatever it is.

Being that our universe is a complex system, these three sets of personalities do not exist in silos, as some men can have bits of each, making them very hard people to understand and ultimately treat. Not to mention, given that their issues are with trust, these men are clearly not trustworthy themselves, but they are skilled at navigating unsuspecting females, and they manage to make do in relationship, after relationship if they are able to acquire them consistently.

The universe and life are a series of repetitive events. This is what fosters growth and development, and any time that you have something that pauses development, it is time for a change, as growth is the constant that we must cling to ALL of the time.

While aging is automatic, growth requires persistent attention and calm perseverance over years and years, and for each of the three sets of personalities that I’ve just described, growth is stagnated, simply because they are not living existentially truthful lives.

What is more, these personalities may enjoy discussing their failures, which is a negative reward loop for them. So, not only are they leading troublesome lives, they are invested in promoting it, which makes them create spaces where there are “dead drops” or, there are often unforeseen circumstances popping up for them or around them, leading people around them to fall into confusion themselves.

They indeed are dangerous company to keep, as they exist in spaces where there is no true life or, no sustaining force based on the energy that resides in the vicinity.

What many people do not realize is that life is a continuous thing, meaning, even when the spirit goes back to heaven, life is continuing for some. However, this is not the case for everybody and what’s worse, certain death can happen even while a person is still alive, and it is this subset of people that I’ve just described who usher in death while living, because of their untoward notions and beliefs.

The universe is comprised of levels of knowledge, which means that when people choose to deny the existence of knowledge just so that they could feel comfortable with parts of themselves, they are abandoning a protective layer of the universe, and they are leaving themselves exposed and devoid of a certain set of protective knowledge.

They may or may not be aware of this, and if often leaves them with a load of emotional baggage to deal with, as the universe exiles them for them to cope with this loss. This is important, because it is meant to give them some pause, to consider their ways and to hopefully see where they err. How they respond is up to them, and some can be defiant, confused, morose, and even suicidal, because they are faced with this critical choice.

The need to rectify the causes of these mental ailments is clear, as we do are dealing with the consequences of when a large subset of the population is not living according to plan.

False beliefs can spread like wildfire, which we see happening for the supporters of Donald Trump’s presidency. History is full of examples of mass hysteria and group think, which are the possible outcomes of such unmitigated mental blockage.

Hopefully, the field of psychology has recognized that its years of fear-based polices and research are not taking us anywhere, as institutions, just like people are prone to acting in the fear based ways that I described just because of their demographical make up.

I feel that it is time that psychologists do more to address the pressing issues of the world, because it is our profession to think long and deep about solutions.

It is time that we stop avoid the difficult problems.

The ball is in your court.

Round 1.